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It’s not as hard as you think…. Here’s why

I’ve been counseling and coaching people for many years and between this and my own personal journey there’s one thing I know…   CHANGE IS HARD!!! Well… kinda. What I learned over the years was that it was never as hard as I thought it was. The reason change seems so hard is because we […]

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Your biggest problem isn’t what you think it is

Each of us has had our share of hard times both past and present… financial struggles broken relationships with family members emotional pain from past experiences Understandably we ponder these issues searching for solutions to address them. These aren’t our biggest problems though… Our biggest challenges are the ones we don’t actually even have. Many of […]

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Start where you are… start now

We all have goals, hopes, and dreams. lose weight change careers start a business quit smoking save for retirement For many of us these goals, hopes, and dreams have been sitting stagnant for a reeaaallllyy long time. We have a good explanation for that: I’m going to start on Monday I can’t start until I […]

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Your life is what you choose it to be… choose wisely

We certainly didn’t choose to experience the trauma we did.  If we had it our way it never would have happened.  We wouldn’t even wish it on our worst enemy. We do however, choose what happens next.  Sometimes we’d like to believe we have no control because it relieves us of responsibility and allows us […]

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Be Perfectly Imperfect

Be your best.  Do your best……. Be THE best.  Do THE best. One word changes the directive in these two sets of sentences. We are living a world that asks us to do and be more than our best, it asks us to do and be THE best. Be THE smartest. Be THE prettiest. Be […]

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Its Not That COMPLICATED

“It’s COMPLICATED”  …Facebook status for relationships. Maybe you didn’t actually select it but in your mind you thought, “Man!  My relationship is so COMPLICATED.” For some of us, if asked, that’s how we’d label our lives… COMPLICATED. Someone asks about your life as a parent…COMPLICATED. Your efforts trying to parent your child whose mother/father you’re […]

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Turn Off Autopilot – Wake Up To Life

Somewhere along the line in our fast paced lives, much of our lives became automatic.  We get up daily and go to work.  Most days we drive the same route there and back.  Our evenings are automatic… dinner, watch TV, shower, etc.   For the most part, there is great benefit to our routine.  It […]

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Learn To Accept The LOVE You Yearn For

Love… not only do we desire it, it is a fundamental human need.   Everyone seeks it… …from our parents in the form of a hug or just knowing that they are proud of us. …from our friends in the form of an invitation to a party or a shoulder to cry on. …from our mate in […]

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