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It’s not as hard as you think…. Here’s why

I’ve been counseling and coaching people for many years and between this and my own personal journey there’s one thing I know…   CHANGE IS HARD!!! Well… kinda. What I learned over the years was that it was never as hard as I thought it was. The reason change seems so hard is because we […]

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Your biggest problem isn’t what you think it is

Each of us has had our share of hard times both past and present… financial struggles broken relationships with family members emotional pain from past experiences Understandably we ponder these issues searching for solutions to address them. These aren’t our biggest problems though… Our biggest challenges are the ones we don’t actually even have. Many of […]

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Karma is your friend… If you make it so

We’ve all heard of karma…  Whatever you do comes back to you…. You reap what you sow. Typically when we think of karma and refer to examples of it, we think of it from a negative perspective.  We think of the person who stole something eventually losing something of value.  The person who cheats on […]

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Be Perfectly Imperfect

Be your best.  Do your best……. Be THE best.  Do THE best. One word changes the directive in these two sets of sentences. We are living a world that asks us to do and be more than our best, it asks us to do and be THE best. Be THE smartest. Be THE prettiest. Be […]

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Turn Off Autopilot – Wake Up To Life

Somewhere along the line in our fast paced lives, much of our lives became automatic.  We get up daily and go to work.  Most days we drive the same route there and back.  Our evenings are automatic… dinner, watch TV, shower, etc.   For the most part, there is great benefit to our routine.  It […]

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Learn To Accept The LOVE You Yearn For

Love… not only do we desire it, it is a fundamental human need.   Everyone seeks it… …from our parents in the form of a hug or just knowing that they are proud of us. …from our friends in the form of an invitation to a party or a shoulder to cry on. …from our mate in […]

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Reconnect to what matters

As we move through life, often in a swift manner, we lose some things along the way.  Some are bad habits, people who aren’t good for us, old ways of thinking which could be considered “good loses.”  But often we move so quickly that we also lose touch with things that matter. As you enter […]

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Arrival… Are you an Aliver? From “You Survived…Now What?”

AHHHHH!!!! You have arrived!!!!…… Ok, not really… We never really arrive. There is always work to do. The list you made of coping mechanisms, people, places, and things that you wanted to change was likely an extensive one and you probably have not addressed everything you would like to. That doesn’t mean you aren’t an […]

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Don’t hurt me and I won’t hurt you…unless I think you’re going to hurt me…then I might hurt you

I wrote a blog last week about always going first (click here to read) in which I talked about taking the risk to be vulnerable and lead by example.  I find myself back in the place that inspired that blog.  At this stage of being an Aliver, I’m finally to the point where I am […]

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Avoiding Hurt = Avoiding Happiness

Everyone does it.  Just about everyone who’s ever been through anything engages in self-preservation. I’m not going to show him/her my true feelings because I don’t want to get hurt and that’s what happened last time I let someone close to me. I’m not going to develop relationships at work because last time I did […]

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