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You’re missing out if all you’re seeking is happiness… here’s why

I remember the first time I experienced a moment of being an Aliver.  It was something I had never felt before.  It was a feeling of lightness… of being carefree.  For the first time in my life, “life” wasn’t my focus.  This probably sounds corny but I began to look at the sky, trees, and […]

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Your biggest problem isn’t what you think it is

Each of us has had our share of hard times both past and present… financial struggles broken relationships with family members emotional pain from past experiences Understandably we ponder these issues searching for solutions to address them. These aren’t our biggest problems though… Our biggest challenges are the ones we don’t actually even have. Many of […]

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Your life is what you choose it to be… choose wisely

We certainly didn’t choose to experience the trauma we did.  If we had it our way it never would have happened.  We wouldn’t even wish it on our worst enemy. We do however, choose what happens next.  Sometimes we’d like to believe we have no control because it relieves us of responsibility and allows us […]

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Be Perfectly Imperfect

Be your best.  Do your best……. Be THE best.  Do THE best. One word changes the directive in these two sets of sentences. We are living a world that asks us to do and be more than our best, it asks us to do and be THE best. Be THE smartest. Be THE prettiest. Be […]

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What If You Fall?

Everything thing can change in an instant. Scary isn’t it??…. or is it? Well, it depends on how you look at it. With a mind geared toward expecting the worst, yes, its very scary.  Many of us are in the habit of expecting the worse. What if it doesn’t work? What if she/he doesn’t like […]

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Turn Off Autopilot – Wake Up To Life

Somewhere along the line in our fast paced lives, much of our lives became automatic.  We get up daily and go to work.  Most days we drive the same route there and back.  Our evenings are automatic… dinner, watch TV, shower, etc.   For the most part, there is great benefit to our routine.  It […]

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Reconnect to what matters

As we move through life, often in a swift manner, we lose some things along the way.  Some are bad habits, people who aren’t good for us, old ways of thinking which could be considered “good loses.”  But often we move so quickly that we also lose touch with things that matter. As you enter […]

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In a funk?? Get out now!

Even though I’ve been in the advanced stage of healing for a while now, it seems inevitable that from time to time, I fall into a funk.  I suddenly get down on myself, struggle to get along with others, and lose that sense of being an Aliver.  I discuss this reality in my book in […]

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I always go first

Having experienced extensive hurt by being sexually abused by my brother for a majority of my childhood and raped by my high school teacher, to say that I had trust issues for a majority of my adulthood would be an understatement.  Two people who I was supposed to be able to trust violated my trust […]

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