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Wanna know the #1 reason for unhappiness?

Have you ever wondered why not everyone is happy and at peace? Unless you’re an analytical nerd like me you probably haven’t… but seriously, now that I mention it, isn’t it a curious mystery? Why in the world isn’t everyone walking around smiling and overflowing with peace?  Everyone wants to be happy don’t they?  So […]

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It’s not as hard as you think…. Here’s why

I’ve been counseling and coaching people for many years and between this and my own personal journey there’s one thing I know…   CHANGE IS HARD!!! Well… kinda. What I learned over the years was that it was never as hard as I thought it was. The reason change seems so hard is because we […]

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You’re missing out if all you’re seeking is happiness… here’s why

I remember the first time I experienced a moment of being an Aliver.  It was something I had never felt before.  It was a feeling of lightness… of being carefree.  For the first time in my life, “life” wasn’t my focus.  This probably sounds corny but I began to look at the sky, trees, and […]

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Your life is what you choose it to be… choose wisely

We certainly didn’t choose to experience the trauma we did.  If we had it our way it never would have happened.  We wouldn’t even wish it on our worst enemy. We do however, choose what happens next.  Sometimes we’d like to believe we have no control because it relieves us of responsibility and allows us […]

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Karma is your friend… If you make it so

We’ve all heard of karma…  Whatever you do comes back to you…. You reap what you sow. Typically when we think of karma and refer to examples of it, we think of it from a negative perspective.  We think of the person who stole something eventually losing something of value.  The person who cheats on […]

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Be Perfectly Imperfect

Be your best.  Do your best……. Be THE best.  Do THE best. One word changes the directive in these two sets of sentences. We are living a world that asks us to do and be more than our best, it asks us to do and be THE best. Be THE smartest. Be THE prettiest. Be […]

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What If You Fall?

Everything thing can change in an instant. Scary isn’t it??…. or is it? Well, it depends on how you look at it. With a mind geared toward expecting the worst, yes, its very scary.  Many of us are in the habit of expecting the worse. What if it doesn’t work? What if she/he doesn’t like […]

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Its Not That COMPLICATED

“It’s COMPLICATED”  …Facebook status for relationships. Maybe you didn’t actually select it but in your mind you thought, “Man!  My relationship is so COMPLICATED.” For some of us, if asked, that’s how we’d label our lives… COMPLICATED. Someone asks about your life as a parent…COMPLICATED. Your efforts trying to parent your child whose mother/father you’re […]

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Turn Off Autopilot – Wake Up To Life

Somewhere along the line in our fast paced lives, much of our lives became automatic.  We get up daily and go to work.  Most days we drive the same route there and back.  Our evenings are automatic… dinner, watch TV, shower, etc.   For the most part, there is great benefit to our routine.  It […]

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Learn To Accept The LOVE You Yearn For

Love… not only do we desire it, it is a fundamental human need.   Everyone seeks it… …from our parents in the form of a hug or just knowing that they are proud of us. …from our friends in the form of an invitation to a party or a shoulder to cry on. …from our mate in […]

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